Waterproof and remote-controllable

D I.Y Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition

You’ve got strokers (your Fleshlights and the like), but also cock rings, frenulum massagers, and blowjob simulators, to name just a few. Though if you think the best male masturbators are just a lazy man’s shortcut to orgasm, you’re missing the point. They’re here to make you feel things you’ve never felt before, and can even be used in tandem with a partner to amp up a blow job or foreplay. Even on Mashable’s sex and relationships team, clit suction toys are highly divisive, pointing to the very simple fact that different people enjoy different sensations. The clever curved design works both internally and externally at the same time, simultaneously stimulating your G-spot and clitoris.

The fixed tail keeps it in just the right place and at just the right angle for the kind of O’s you really deserve. “Solo play allows for leaning into pleasure without having to think about anything else. It’s a good opportunity to find out for yourself what your pleasure potential is and how you get there. This can be really empowering,” explains Rachel Zar, LMFT, CST, a relationship and sex therapist at Spark Chicago Therapy and Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine & Menopause. All the tone in the world doesn’t mean much if a guitar plays like a log.

You can place it on the bed or a chair, then grind against or ride it during solo play. One side has a flicking tongue, which you can use to mimic the feeling of oral sex on your clit or anus, while the other has a warming feature (because heated seats aren’t just for cars anymore). Waterproof and remote-controllable, the Vibepad will surely be a grinder’s go-to—just remember to add a dab of water-based lubricant for maximum comfort. Some of the intercourse simulators in this guide are paired with content libraries that sync up with mechanical motions performed by the toys. Your partner may also be able to access an audio interface with each mobile app that allows them to take physical control of your toy while also projecting audio into your partner’s space, and vice versa. These capabilities are becoming more commonplace for highly developed sex toys designed for couples living apart.

Thanks to its warming effect, this slick toy left our panel feeling hot and steamy, in the best way. Able to heat up and cool down, it’s perfect for those who enjoy temperature play. The navy and silver design was described as “elegant” by our panel, and the smooth material felt lovely to hold and use.

This toy, however, was designed specifically for prostate play, so of course it does so very well. In addition to vibrating, this toy’s internal arm moves up and down in a “come hither” motion to massage your prostate. The arms don’t work independently of each other, but the 10 vibration settings and overall satisfaction with using this makes up for it. The Lovense Nora is a fantastic rabbit vibe, featuring strong and rumbly vibrations, a flexible clitoral arm, and a rotating shaft that can massage the G-spot.

While I came really hard using the Motobunny, I have to admit that I felt equal parts silly and like the queen of the world masturbating by sitting on a saddle next to my bed. People with penises may want to consider this stroker mount for some hands-free action. Slip your favorite Fleshlight into the slot, get on top, and go to town. It may seem pricey, especially given that you must buy a Fleshlight separately, but it holds well up to thrusting and is a much classier solution than jamming your Fleshlight between your mattress and your box spring. For new sexplorers vibrators, try starting on the lowest intensity setting and increasing as desired. Play around with Puff’s position , orientation, pressure, and intensity to find a spot that works for you!

Or put a towel or blanket between you and your toy, or keep your underwear on. (This is why I like the Limon so much; you simply squeeze harder for more speed, instead of having to fiddle with any buttons.) You’re looking for a setting that feels nice and moderate, not like it’s power-waxing your clitoris. I like it because it’s simple and intuitive to use, fits in the hand nicely, and packs a punch despite looking cutesy. It might look a little intimidating for a first-time toy, but many women will love the clitoris-cradling sensation it creates. Both the LELO Lily and JeJoue Mimi are pretty straightforward and uncomplicated, while still being high-quality. I suggest reading reviews online to get more perspectives about your potential purchase.